In continuation of my last article about parenting, I would like to challenge a saying that has recently emerged in Scandinavia, especially Denmark. It was coined by a politician: "BBB" — Bloody Badly Behaved.
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Yes, if we consider my previous article, some children can indeed be confused, and I am not saying that no child is badly behaved. But becoming a well-adjusted, harmonious adult requires being met by acknowledging, loving adults with leadership. Children practice being well-behaved adults, and that is a process, a process that depends on how we, as adults, act toward the child.
I work with neurodivergent children who have sensory integration and regulation issues. These children behave according to what their nervous system allows. We are talking about children who genuinely want to cooperate and behave, and resourceful parents who use every available resource to support them, yet are often worn out.
In this article, I will take you on a journey through the eyes of a neurodivergent child and their parents, and explain why sensory integration is fundamental for everyone's wellbeing. One thing is certain: you cannot approach a child with sensory integration issues the same way as a child with a well-regulated nervous system.
What Is Sensory Integration?
You might see a child lying on the floor in the supermarket, having meltdowns at home or school, or experiencing some degree of anxiety. Some children are sensitive to light and sound, others to clothing, fabrics, or even certain foods. Treating these kids the same as neurotypical children can overwhelm them.
Imagine a crossroad with a traffic light. Normally, when the light is red, cars from the other direction can go. When it turns green, you can drive safely because other cars are stopped. The traffic is controlled and orderly.
The same happens with our sensory system. When it is unregulated and all senses are buzzing unfiltered, the brain cannot organise the input, resulting in chaos, much like unmanaged traffic.
When a child is in sensory chaos, navigating everyday life becomes extremely difficult.
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Regulation
Regulation is part of sensory integration. First, the brain must determine how much information to allow through, sorting input into relevant or irrelevant. The nervous system can also be in a state of high arousal, making a child hyper-alert.
Some babies experience birth trauma, which can result in an unintegrated fear-paralysis reflex. This, among other factors, can make it harder for the nervous system to regulate and evaluate incoming sensory input.
Difficulty regulating can lead to trouble organising sensory information, which in turn affects daily functioning.
Benefits of Proper Sensory Integration & a Well-Regulated Nervous System
A well-integrated sensory system allows a child to play, learn, socialise and function in everyday life. We learn about the world through our senses:
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Sight, smell, taste, hearing, touch — these senses provide crucial information, like distinguishing a butterfly landing on your arm from a friend tapping your shoulder, or finding a key in your bag without looking.
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Vestibular system (balance and movement) — helps us move safely, ride bikes, walk, sit at a desk, or even enjoy amusement rides. It also supports eye focus during activities.
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Proprioception (body position) — allows us to know where our body parts are without looking, walk stairs safely, touch our nose with eyes closed, or gauge force while cracking an egg.
By integrating all this sensory information, children can participate fully in activities such as playing catch or sitting in a circle with friends. Sensory integration allows them to make sense of the world and interact confidently.
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Consequences of a Dysregulated Nervous System
If a child cannot regulate, sort, and organise sensory input, challenges arise:
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Sound sensitivity — everyday noises may feel violent and overwhelming.
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Touch & food sensitivity — children may avoid hugs, even from parents, and prefer foods that are easy to chew, smooth and consistent in temperature.
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Balance & movement issues — if the vestibular system is out of sync, children may be motorically unsafe.
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Concentration difficulties — sitting still, focusing and participating in classroom activities can be extremely challenging.
A poorly regulated sensory system affects a child's ability to navigate everyday life safely and successfully.
Sensory integration is a crucial foundation for wellbeing, behaviour and learning. Understanding and supporting neurodivergent children through this lens can transform both their experience and the experience of their families.
Also, difficulties with concentrating, sitting still on a chair, and focusing the eyes while reading can be signs of sensory integration challenges. So, when you see what you perceive as a "BBB" child, the reason might be something entirely different. These parents need your support and understanding.
And to the parents, if you recognise any of the above symptoms, there is help available. You can contact a sensory integration therapist for guidance and support.
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About the Author: Majbritt Mork
